As an individual we tend to worry about what others think of us and the need to be liked by others. We think about how we want to be perceieved and what we want we want to be known for in our lives. Some of us are curious about how or what we would like to be remembered for after we pass this universe. I think that in our individual lives, there are three important stages in life that shape us who we are, and these stages make us…us.
Our childhood is our most innocent years. We are supposed to be free and curious in the world we are surrounded in. The people we grow up next to, the teachers who taught us new things have a large amount of influence of how we view EVERYTHING. Growing up, I spent half my childhood in a small village, Noahkali, Bangladesh and then the rest in the U.S. When I had moved the States, the culture difference impacted my life drastically. I wanted to fit in and be like the other children I went to school with. I wanted to learn the way they spoke, I wanted to listen to the same music they listen to. I wanted to hang out at the same places they did after school. However, most of my time spent during my childhood were with other Bangladeshi’s.
I thought about what it would be like if I didn’t befriend other Bangladeshi children growing up. What kind of a person would have I become? The friends I was introduced came from other school districts. They were the only ones I was allowed to hang out with outside of school. Although I had a few friends in my classrooms, my parents did not allow me to see them outside of school all that much. They were afraid of the american influence they would have on me and I would completely disregard my own culture. I couldn’t blame them. Change is not easy. The community you are placed in automatically gives you a new perspective on things. I was put into a whole new environment, so how could I not want to explore that!
Our pre-adulthood years are the toughest years. At this point, we are already currupted with abundance amount of information. We have to make choices that depict the rest of our life. With school, friends, and family members influencing us through every decisions we make are the ball points of the person we may become in the future. They are part of the guilts, the shame, the self questioning, and even the happiness that lies within ourselves. We choose who we want to become as a person. For a long time, I definitely questioned a lot of things about myself. I never knew what I wanted do with my choices and what path I wanted to take. Over time, the people that comes across my life helped me learn new aspects of life and how they have made themself who they wanted to be. I wanted that same confidence in myself. So I decided to only associate myself with those who assist in my confidence, rather than lower my self-esteem.
The last stage is our adult years. This is the rest of our life. There is still room to make new decisions in life, such as our career, our lifestyle, or even our eating habits. Everything we were exposed to through out our childhood and pre-adulthood years has now shaped us who we are today. They may have broken us or made us stronger, but the truth is, we can only get stronger despite all odds. From now on, the things we do, and paths we can will only lead us to goals we want to achieve; where true happiness does lie.
It is important to reminiscence about the choices we made growing up that lead us to where we are now, at this very moment. While I am sitting here writing this post, I knew that everything I have done has lead me here sharing my thoughts with you. It may not be perfect, and neither am I, but I am here and I am on my way to a better view.
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